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These are some of the stories of clients that I feel are important to share. Their stories and experiences are empowering and loving. These people have experienced various levels of healing - emotionally, physically and spiritually. It is always my greatest honour when people trust me to share in a part of their journey.
April 22, 2003
Recently I had to inform a client that I would no longer work with him. I have known
this client for about two years and wanted very much to help him. Unfortunately, one
of the most difficult things for this client to grasp was the need for him to take
responsibility for his healing, his behaviour and his growth. He wanted a magic
pill, something that would make his emotional unease and fears disappear. He wanted
a healer who could miraculously solve the problems for him. He did not want to face
that he would need to do work, be responsible for his journey and look deeply and
truthfully at his behaviour and what he needed to do to help himself grow.
He informed me that I was the first healer he worked with who advised him to take
responsibility. My reply was "if the other's methods worked so well, why are
you coming to see me?"
In the time that I had worked with him, I probably saw him 15-20 times. In that
time, he didn't want to do the work that I requested of him, because he found it too
difficult to reach inside himself, address his fears and grow. It was easier to just
come for a session ask questions and receive counselling and healing and walk away feeling
better emotionally, but, with no deep desire to delve deeply into that which was causing
him pain and stopping his growth.
His behaviour towards me was uncharitable and defensive. Although he was aware of
the negative and cruel comments he made toward me, he never apologized to me, until I
brought it up and called him on his behaviour. The most difficult part of this for
me, is that I recognized long ago that he was not his behaviour, his fear and his
negativity. I saw the gentleness, goodness, kindness of who he truly is. But,
due to his own fears and inability to rise above them, he continued to flounder and
refused to grow, evolve and take responsibility for his behaviour and his actions.
Compassion and love sometimes means making difficult decisions. It also means
recognizing when we are not helping another grow and become all that they are capable
of. Sometimes the only way to grow and become all that we truly are is to face all
that we have been. Sometimes the way to growth is through recognizing we are not
our behaviour and that we can change and evolve and become what we are destined to be when
we accept our role in our own journeys and when we truly desire to evolve and become who
we truly are.
To this client, I wish you well on your journey. You have a beautiful heart and
soul, you need only find it underneath the bed of fear that you have surrounding yourself.
It is time for you to find yourself and recognize the beauty within. It is
time for you to take responsibility for your actions and reactions. No one can do
this for you - this is up to you now.
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