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  The Story of Ross 
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The following is a true story, except the client's name has been changed.

    A couple of years back, the doorbell rang and I opened it up to greet a new client.  I have always maintained that the angels would send people to me that needed my help.  I was never concerned about any danger or threat from a client, whether they would be male or female because I trusted that the people who would show up at my door were there for my help, not to cause me any problems.

    I believe we all have moments in time where we forget to trust the angels and ourselves and give in to the fear of the moment.  This was one of those moments for me.  The man at my door was over six feet tall, broad shouldered and looked incredibly strong.  His long hair was covered by a bandanna, he had a leather jacket, heavy chains around his neck and wrists and stood smoking a cigarette.  I glanced out in the driveway surprised to see a car parked, where I had expected a motorcycle to be.  With slight trepidation, I brought the client upstairs to my healing room.

    He sat in a chair across from me and I looked into his eyes.  I was amazed at what I saw.   Here was a man that appeared as strong as an ox and hardened.  By all appearances he was rough and frightening, but one look into his eyes gave him completely away.  Here was one of the most gentle souls I have had the honour to meet.  As I looked into his eyes I realized very quickly this man was no threat to anyone and was an incredibly gentle and sensitive soul.  Ross has beautiful eyes that reflect the gentleness and sweetness of his soul.  His appearance is only a facade.  The person, the real Ross hides behind this exterior.

    Ross had been through an incredible amount of hurt and was unable to trust people.  He looked at me and all he saw was another woman that he couldn't possibly trust because of all that he had been through.

    Within a very short time I had this man in tears and the barrier that he had surrounding him was down.  He soon realized he could trust me and through the words that I was guided to say to him, I was able to help him.

    Ross was carrying an incredibly heavy burden of pain, anger and disappointment.  Ross was going through a difficult separation from his wife, who was seriously ill.   Additionally, his precious child was also seriously ill.  His heart was broken for many reasons.  His adored child was ill.  He had recently separated from his wife and he had lost faith in people, in God and in himself.  He wished it was he who was ill and not his adored child.

    In addition to his marital stress, Ross was in the process of moving home with his parents to supply his child with more constant care.  His child was adored, protected and well-taken care of.  The most important thing to Ross was his child and ensuring the child was safe, happy and taken care of.  One thing Ross forgot in the mix was to look after himself.  His nerves were frazzled and he was no longer the calm, easy-going guy he wanted to be.  He was so worried about his child and his child's health that he couldn't see anything positive in the situation.  He was angry at this wife and he was angry at the world.  He was disappointed and unhappy and had no way to vent his emotions.

    His anger was eating away at him and he knew in his soul he had to do something to get a handle on his emotions.  Ross felt that he was not helping his child and that he was not handling the situation as best as he could.  His search for an answer to his heartache and pain led him to my door.

    Part of the way I work is to empower people.  We are not victims and we are ultimately in control of all that happens around us.  We need only look differently at the situation to understand this.  Ross was seeing so much sadness and unhappiness that he wasn't looking for any positive.  He was unable to see anything good in this situation.

    The love that Ross has in his heart was returned completely to him from his child.  His child was as protective and nurturing of Ross as Ross was of the child.  He just needed to understand this and see it.  As he was suffering and feeling sadness, his child was also sensing it and reaction to Ross' pain.  The best thing Ross could do for his child was to be proactive to the situation and see all the positive.

    Despite his child's illness, the child appeared to be doing well.  He was receiving medical help that appeared to be working.  Living at home with his parents assured the child ate and received consistent care.  Ross' parents doted on their grandchild and Ross was able to not worry while he worked during the days or when he was late coming home from work.

    I helped Ross to understand that he could help his child more than he realized.  If he continued to stress himself about the child's health and his fears, he would find he would not be the support for his child that he was needed to be.  Children sense fear in adults.  If we give into the fears, they soon feel them as well.  It is imperative for his child's health that Ross doesn't dwell on the fear. 

    I talked to Ross about the special child that he has.  His child is incredibly gentle, compassionate and caring.  The child's love was unconditional and the child's support of Ross was never-ending. 

    Although his child had an illness, his child wouldn't be the same child if they weren't experiencing life exactly as they were.  All things happen for a reason, even if we, as humans, are unable to understand or accept them.  We need to find a way to accept them and try to see the positive, even if we are unable to truly understand the reasons for everything.

    I also talked at length to Ross about healing and what it entails.  By putting his hands on his child and channelling healing energy into his child, he can help more than he realized.  This way he can be proactive in helping his child with his illness.   It will allow him to feel that he is able to do something, as opposed to watching helplessly.  By empowering Ross to realize his own potentials, I was able to help him help both himself and his child.

    A month later Ross showed up at my door.  He was still the same on the outside - leather, heavy chains and smoking a cigarette.  But on the inside, he was a happier, more content person.  He had found the power within himself to make changes in his life.   He used the healing energy consistently with his child to ease any pains and in doing so Ross felt he was not a part of his son's treatment.  He was helping to create a better world for his child.  He realized that if he was frazzled and stressed that his child was ultimately affected by his behaviour and he made a conscious effort to modify his attitude and his views.  He began to see the blessings of his child and stopped worrying about the what-ifs.  He focused on today and the happiness that surrounds him, not the fears of what tomorrow might bring.

    He thanked me for helping him, but I feel he did most of the work.  I brought the message forward and helped him to see the merit in shifting, he did all the work.  He helped himself, brought peace to himself and changed his outlook.  He followed his guidance and opened himself up to me.  He let me talk and do what I do, which is to bring healing to people.  He listened and followed through with the work.  He left empowered and changed and the benefit was not just to himself, but to his beautiful child.

    Ross was an incredible lesson for me.  He helped me to again see how we all have the power within us to create change.  How we can choose to see a situation and our perspective can create a positive or a negative view.  The love that exists between Ross and his child is just another testament to the power of Unconditional Love.

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